She was ready to date and had taken time to seek God and heal after her divorce three years earlier.
She thought her lunch date had done the same, but she quickly discovered otherwise. During their lunch, his eyes filled with tears and anguish.
If you start dating prematurely, you could be hurting — rather than honoring — those you date.
When Becky was invited to lunch by a man she met at a bookstore, she was excited.
When Becky asked him how long he'd been divorced, he admitted that it wasn't final yet, that he was living in the basement of the home that he and his wife shared, and that they'd only been separated for three weeks.
Becky gently told her date that he needed to first pursue emotional and spiritual healing. But dating so soon will almost inevitably lead to heartache, since he's neither emotionally nor legally available.
For the single parent, this means that you will have to do some "guarding" for your children by not involving them with your suitors too soon in a relationship.
And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.
Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).
You can also establish an accountability group made up of those who know and love you.
That way, when you feel tempted, you can call on them for prayer and support.